Today the first day of February, my classmate is getting married. I really want to say "happy wedding day" to her but unfortunately, I'm not close to her. So yeah, I just leave my gift to my invited friends, coz the truth is I'm not invited. Hahahaha. LOL.🤣
Ok, forget!!
Actually the reason suddenly I write this topic is because I curious how can my friend very confident to get married at this age? 🤔🤔
I think it depends on each person, but from my point of view for a girl to decided married at this age (FYI I still 19 yo) is hard. Coz when you said 'I do', it means that you ready to lose your time for hangout, your dream (in this part not all girl who already married lose their dream but most of them yes), and your 자유 time. But I really appreciate my friend and other girls out there who confident in deciding in a young marriage. Maybe If I was her, I can't. haha.
Actually back then when I was in high school, I really confident with my bucket list which is getting married in my early 20s. Maybe it because of my 주변 which is most of them like kinda 'keislaman' with the wrong view. So, that's why I really confident back then. But after I read a lot of books and many talks with random people, I realize that opinion like 'our generation better married early than get into a relationship' is not completely true. Coz if we push our generation which still doesn't know how life is, it'll make them regret their decision later. And also in our teenagers or twenties, there are so many things to do or try.
Just because of the relationship's culture from western my surroundings make a conclusion that when a person in a relationship she/he will doing sex (in my country doing sex and ur family/surrounding know, it means your life over). I'll not blame people with this opinion but if they beat all relationships like this it's not fair for people who didn't do that. Also, I'm feeling so bad to couple with a good relationship must get pressure from society to 빨리 결혼해 because of that. Whereas, all of the good/bad effects of the relationship is back again to personal itself. If they can suppress their 'nafsu' that situation will not happen.
And in Indonesia itself, I don't know why just because a teenager turns to an adult so society always talks about marriage. I mean not all adults already mature right? Okay for the age they completely enough but how about their mentality?? Nobody knows right?? That's why I think better to change our society's view of adult, marriage, and maturity.
That's all just my opinion. If the other person has a different opinion it's ok, coz everyone has their own mind, their own belief. And I'm proud of you guys, who decided to marry at a young age and me also proud to people who still struggle with their own dreams!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Actually back then when I was in high school, I really confident with my bucket list which is getting married in my early 20s. Maybe it because of my 주변 which is most of them like kinda 'keislaman' with the wrong view. So, that's why I really confident back then. But after I read a lot of books and many talks with random people, I realize that opinion like 'our generation better married early than get into a relationship' is not completely true. Coz if we push our generation which still doesn't know how life is, it'll make them regret their decision later. And also in our teenagers or twenties, there are so many things to do or try.
Just because of the relationship's culture from western my surroundings make a conclusion that when a person in a relationship she/he will doing sex (in my country doing sex and ur family/surrounding know, it means your life over). I'll not blame people with this opinion but if they beat all relationships like this it's not fair for people who didn't do that. Also, I'm feeling so bad to couple with a good relationship must get pressure from society to 빨리 결혼해 because of that. Whereas, all of the good/bad effects of the relationship is back again to personal itself. If they can suppress their 'nafsu' that situation will not happen.
And in Indonesia itself, I don't know why just because a teenager turns to an adult so society always talks about marriage. I mean not all adults already mature right? Okay for the age they completely enough but how about their mentality?? Nobody knows right?? That's why I think better to change our society's view of adult, marriage, and maturity.
That's all just my opinion. If the other person has a different opinion it's ok, coz everyone has their own mind, their own belief. And I'm proud of you guys, who decided to marry at a young age and me also proud to people who still struggle with their own dreams!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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